“What was, what is, and what lies ahead…”
“What was, what is, and what lies ahead…”
How do we mindfully mark time’s unfolding without letting it speed away like a runaway train?
We slow down and bring intention.
During this time of year, with so much change, I find solace in a phrase I use in my work…
What was, what is, what lies ahead.
This structure provides guidance to many rituals and ceremonies that mark change in our lives. There are many ways to have sacred moments, and by pausing to acknowledge these 3 places in time, we cover a lot of potent ground.
First, we notice all that was. These are moments of the past. It is a time to reflect on all that was good, all that was hard, all that wants to be seen, and all that will no longer be. This can stir up emotions of relief, grief, joy, and peace. It can be a time for a release of feelings or just an acknowledgement.
Next, we notice what is here, in this current moment. This allows for quiet presence. What is here for me now? How do I feel at this moment? Can I feel my breath? What colors do I see, what sounds do I hear? What is a truth for me now? What am I grateful for?
Finally, we envision what lies ahead, in our future. This is a time of inspiration, hope, and creativity. It’s a place to tap into your wildest dreams and put it out for the universe to grab a hold of. We can think outside of the box, listen to our heart’s desires, and announce it with confidence and clarity. We may not know how life will unfold, but this part of ritual and ceremony offers us an opportunity to put our wishes for the future into the great unfolding.
We can do this simply in a few minutes or over a couple of hours.
Consider our very familiar birthday ritual. First, what was: stories are told of how the celebrated one has grown. Next, what is: The birthday candles are lit and everyone looks in awe at the glow, listening to the sounds of the familiar song, and feeling the joy in their hearts. Finally, a wish is made for the future, what lies ahead, and the candles are blown out. Very simply, what was, what is, and what lies ahead.
Another example to consider is a wedding ceremony. First, what was: stories are shared about the couple's lives before they met and how their love continued to grow. Next, what is: gratitude is shared for all of the love between them and the love surrounding them from family and friends. Finally, the ceremony closes with commitments and wishes for the life ahead.
In these two familiar examples, we see how following this simple phrase can offer us groundedness and sacredness in times of change.